Tuesday, July 20, 2010


In our newspaper there was an interesting article about Facebook. My Sweet Husband called it to my attention... and had I not just had an unsettling experience I probably would have brushed it off.

But I read it and I learned something. At least I hope I learned something. Sometimes things can become so tangled due to an innocently misconstrued word or statement...that it can end up in a heartbreaking mess.

It has taken up the last couple of days and I had hoped that it could be explained and straightened out...but...we shall wait and see. It's a frightening and sad, sad thing.

Whatever the case..my mind has not been on my blog. It has been on my precious family and matters at hand.
If...any of you have visited me on facebook, which I really never used much, and didn't understand how to use very well...I am NOT there anymore.

Even writing on here, blogging, things can be taken out of context. I have had that happen. Not recently, but when I first began to blog and it is frightening.

So...like I said, IF you have visited me on facebook OR tried find me there...I am gone. It is permanent. I will not be back to FACEBOOK. I mainly joined to see the latest photo's of family and friends...and of course I had the joy of reconnecting with a long lost friend a few weeks ago. But....I find it a little dangerous...and no longer fun.

I will connect differently. The news article seems to feel the same way I do...be careful. It's public. And...it can be misunderstood and can cause damage. I'm just sayin'.... :)
Love and hugs,


  1. Can you tell us where we can find the article? I feel much the same way as you, but I'm mainly on there to keep in touch with out of state family and friends...mainly family.

    Take care~

  2. Dearest Mona,

    Prudence & Sissy say hello, but I won't let them read this post. Good grief, I offer wonder about FaceBook, people put so much personal information out there. There was a news snipit on local news not long ago about a mother who was posting her young daughter's activites on FaceBook. The Sheriff's Department warned viewers that this is dangerous. Yes...very dangerous.

    I have FaceBook but don't use it and I am going to figure out how to delete it.

    Thank you dear friend for the warning. My concern is that YOU ARE OKAY. Are you?

    Love you, sweet friend, I truly love you.


  3. Hi Mona,
    I've missed talking with you. And yes, I agree facebook can be quite scary in more ways than one. I hope everything is ok with you. I also wonder about blogging and know we put a lot of things out there but we also tend to attract a different crowd than facebook. I doubt very many Men read our blogs since they are mostly about home decorating, tablescapes and family stuff. Some girls made up a fake facebook page of my daughter when she was in high school. They put some horrendous things on there. And to get it off is also a nightmare.
    I have facebook but put very few things on there.

  4. Hi Mona,

    It's me again - I deactivated myself. Whew....thank you so much.


  5. Hi Mona! Me too! I deleted my facebook a couple of months ago. I didn't have a bad experience however I know many who have. That is what led to my deleting my page. The information put on facebook can lead to tragedy, and in fact..it has. Thanks friend for this post, I think that I will write a similar post for my own blog. Bless you Mona, and Big Hugs, Sharon

  6. I am so sorry that you had such an unpleasant experience with FB. As a youth leader for our church's senior high students I am on there quite a bit, posting occasionally but mostly watching out for our teens. They forget that what they post is out there forever and the whole world can see it, sadly I find myself reminding them often. They either post inappropriate photos or words or forget that the world is watching. When I comment on their posts it reminds them that an adult is reading and so is everyone else. I am happy you have continued to blog as I would miss your heartfelt posts.

  7. I love my Facebook interactions but I keep everything private where you have to be my friend to see anything and I don't accept "friends" I don't know. I think anything we do online can be turned into something ugly by bad people. It's a shame, actually. HUGS

  8. midlifeslices...I don't disagree with you, I think you missed my point...which is exactly my point! :) Whats the name of that movie? "It's Complicated?"
    It is NOT bad people I speak of. Not at all. I think you misunderstand the situation...which is fine. I am happy your "interactions" on facebook have all been fine, and mine were too...
    That is not at all what I was speaking of.
    Hugs back to you!

  9. I have no idea what article you are talking about so I can't comment on that. I will say that altho I have a facebook page, I never go on there. I have thought many times of deleting it, I just never have. It seems everyone has a facebook page, but there is way too much info out there. Char

  10. I have never signed up for facebook and really never plan to. My kids have been buggin' me for over a year, tellin' me I needed to be on FB. They even prompted me with, "the whole dang family is on facebook but I feel I just do not need to add another thing to do in my life. I am interested in just what the article said.

    God bless you and have a beautiful evening sweet friend!!!

  11. Wise choice as you must have a comfort level and feel completely comfortable no matter what.

  12. Hi Mona,

    I feel the same and actually deleted my FB account a couple of months ago. I just kept getting uncomfortable about the exposure. I have debated going back because I miss being able to see family and friends that are out of state...but each time I end up at the same conclusion: I just don't feel like it is worth the risks. It's nice to know I'm not alone in my thinking.

  13. I tried face book for fostering dogs but I did not last long.

  14. Mona, lots of good feedback here regarding FB and like so many I also have an account, but never post. I stay on just to read about my niece's activities. Sadly, there are so many inappropriate postings and so many opportunities for misinformation. Thanks for letting people express their feelings and sharing your own thoughts.

  15. Everyone seems to go gaga over Facebook. They seem to forget about communicating by good old fashioned email. I left Facebook a couple of months ago and really don't miss it. Those that don't contact me by e-mail really don't matter, now do they?


  16. Like most of us I to am on FB. But it takes too much time to be honest. But to be honest, it´s much funnier to phone and talk with my friends :-) :-)
    Take care now!

  17. I have never been a fan of Myspace or Facebook. People put way too much information on there. I like this post very much!!

  18. Mona, Do you have a link to the news story so I can read it? I have been on vacation and have apparently missed some important news.

  19. I'm so sorry to hear you had an "incident"on FACEBOOK... I agree... things CAN be taken out of context...which is sad...and there it is in print.... FOR.EVER. I understand that things can show up on google even after blogs are removed. We need to caution the young whipersnappers that they need to be careful there as well. It's sad that something that could be so much fun and great way to connect with friends and family can be used against the innocent facebookers... Glad you didn't decide to give up on Bloggyville though. :-)

    Big hugs,

  20. hi mona...i don't do facebook but i totally understand where you are coming from. sometimes even this blogging brings problems. i have made jokes that have been misunderstood and i have missed jokes that other people made and taken them seriously. as much fun as this is we still have to be careful as to how we phrase things.

  21. Hi Mona, I am sorry you had a bad experience.

    I have several friends who have urged me to start a Facebook account. No way. I have heard too many bad things about it. There was recently a news story over the dangers of it on a large network news center. It is not for me.

    Hope your day is blessed.

    Barb ♥

  22. I have a FB account, but warn people that my account is strictly to follow politicians or events of politicians (near me). We live in a small town and a major newspaper no longer distributes here. By being plugged into a FBwall of a pol...I do not get ignored. I have even gotten a phone call by one for clarification on her position.
    I very much like getting my information straight from the source without filtering by the media - conservative or liberal.
    I warn everyone up front that my facebook is political. Since the Georgia primaries are over, I will deactivate the account until 2012.
    As far as social networking...I find FB really boring. Most status updates are unimpressive as most of life is just day to day noneventful.

  23. You were on facebook and I didn't know? What's that about? Hugs to you, dear friend. It's been awhile. I'm curious to know what the article said. Like MLS, I keep mine private but am always interested to hear about other's experiences.

    Love and Hugs,

  24. Hi, Mona. I don't have Face Book. My friends still try to get me on there, but I don't trust it either. Employers can go on there too and get silly or inappropriate info on a person. These kids put way too much info on their FB pages. My son, who is 19, doesn't trust it either. He deleted his page. He doesn't even like me blogging, with giving out info! I am, however, so curious as to what happened to you, or at least to read the article that upset you so. If you feel like sharing the link to the article, please do so. Thanks and take care.
    Best regards,

  25. Hello Dear! I'm so sorry you've had another bad experience via the internet. I've only allowed family on facebook but I still don't care for it a lot either. It confuses me, and my young relatives often bicker back and forth using lg. I don't like. I know you would never mean to hurt anyone. Others often vent and take things out on the people they should be closest to. We can only control our own intentions and feelings and even then this digital world sometimes gets the best of us.

    Make peace as best you can but remember you are only half of the equation. Take comfort in knowing how much good you have done for your family and friends, and us bloggy friends too!
    Hugs and love!

  26. Never hesitate to hold out your hand; never hesitate to accept the outstretched hand of another..................................................................

  27. You have to be very careful because of all the information that is available. My brother just 'barked' at me about giving out too much data even on my blog ... oy! Can not be too careful. I, too, use it only for family visits.

    Hope you are comfortable now, Mona. I think about closing mine down often ... just haven't hit CLICK yet.

    Have a lovely weekend ~
    TTFN ~Hugs, Marydon

  28. wow Mona i have not been over in a while and have been gardening and busy .I have face just to keep up with my out of state family photos .I wish i could see the newpaper i do have a private setting :)

  29. Hello Linda. Thank you for another sweet visit..and I always forget you don't have a blog.
    You can look it up by going to The Press Enterprise in Riverside, California. There are many such pieces though..also the News has had spoken of it now and then. Much has been written on this. I just had to find out for myself. Thanks for stopping by.

  30. Mega Ditto Mona on all that's been said. I've deactivated my FB account as well, about 2 months ago. It was private but not all my friend's had theirs set that way. I felt like a voyeur peeking into the lives of the people who posted to them. Very uneasy feelings about the whole site.

    I hope the mis-understanding gets cleared up quickly & that you feel safe again to blog.


  31. I have face book and lots of people I know. I love it But I will be checking out the article...if I can find it. Thanks for the info!!

  32. Wow, I must've been living under a rock to have missed this post. Nothing in life is mere coincidence!
    I decided to do my chit-chatting on FB and not my blog, as I was having a problem, which I posted about yesterday.
    This morning I realized just how much I love to blog and FB just isn't for me. I was about to write a post kinda retracting my last one, when I found your post. And all the comments. All quite interesting and eye opening.
    You all helped solidify my decision.
    Thanks for posting this, Mona. Wonderful timing! Hugs ♥

  33. I'm not a big fan of Facebook, either and rarely go on. Been thinking about deleting my account for some time. It's just now my way of communicating and way too public.
    Hope you are well!


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