Saturday, November 16, 2013


I wrote that heading to this picture before I thought.  
 All but Sandy.  She was healthy and living in Georgia when this picture was taken here in California.
We always missed her when she wasn't with us on a Holiday
I haven't seen my children look this happy in a while now.  There is pain, an empty feeling.
What curves life can throw at us sometimes.  

Me in the center. This picture was taken Thanksgiving 2006. We were at my daughter Mary's home.
I've written and erased..written and erased.  Now here I am up at back at the computer in the middle of the night.  I will find the group photo with all seven children..I just happened to run across this one...
Can you tell it's a bad night?
I'm sorry.  I should not blog when I am like this, I know.
Sandy should have been in there between Danny (to the right of me)  and Mike.  Pat, my eldest and his brother Mike are just 13 months apart.  Danny and Sandy were 14 months apart.  Erin is to the left of me.  She and her sister, Maryalice are 15 months apart.  Then the baby of the family, Dawn.  There is five years between her and Maryalice.  There will always be that reserved for her.  I will always, always have seven children!  I have trouble accepting that Sandy is gone.
It will be nine months the 22 of November.

There are a lot of things I would probably do differently if I had them to do over...but having my seven  babies is something I would do again!
They are my life.


  1. Families!!! How precious they are! I am in awe of you having seven children!! I would have loved to have had more. Children grow up to be PEOPLE! Complete with their own problems and life situations. What a great pic of you and yours!!

  2. What a blessing. 7 children who have grown into wonderful adults. Now you have wonderful memories of Sandy.
    We never know how life will twist and turn. Just as well.

  3. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. what a great photo to jog your sweet memories.. and painful ones to I am sure..

  4. I understand your pain but remember, she is with you everyday. She is in such a better place, no sickness, nor tears or problem of this world.
    Sending you a big HUG from me.

  5. Dear Mona....please know that there are people who care for you and love you. You have such a lovely family and my goodness, how wonderful to have been blessed with all of these beautiful seven children! It's ok to express these feelings and I admire you for doing so. You are so generous in offering hugs, so allow us to give one back to you!
    Betsy @ Estelle's

  6. what is that saying? a mother is only as healthy as her sickest child?

  7. I like all those playful smiles and you all look like you are up to something. he,he
    What a beautiful family you have Mona and I am sure your kids were and are often hugged and loved. That's just who you are. I agree with "Crafty Lady" . lol

  8. Mona . . . I loved this photo! The smiles and hugs. The playfulness too. Handsome Gorgeous Beautiful family!

    It will always be . . . "I have seven children," for that is your truth. You birthed, raised, loved, cherished . . . each. Seven children. You rock Mona!

    You are in my caring, each day . . .

    I am so happy for our "blogger meet!"

    Love and huge hug!

  9. Your kids are beautiful....just like their mom. I know how you feel...I think pretty much the same. Each month that goes by, I realize that part of our family is missing. For Tim has been gone 6 months. I don't think we will ever be the same, Mona.
    Hugs to you this morning....Balisha

  10. Sweetheart, we can't beat ourselves up over the past. We all would do some things differently. But the past can't be changed. I am so very sorry for your loss. Try to remember the good things , the happy matter how small. Hold those you can closer. Blessings, xoxo,Susie

  11. What a lovely family you have. Keep the memories of your lost one close to you. I want you to know that my prayers are with you every night. Have a blessed day. Madeline

  12. Mona, you know what makes this pictures's because your daughter was still here on Earth and their wasn't all the sadness. Those boys of yours look pretty onery. Such a beautiful family. It's okay to be sad and have days that aren't the best. Just wish somehow we could help you through them. I can't even imagine. ((((HUGS))) to my dear friend.

  13. I think that most of us know of things we would do over if we could. I'm always saying "if I only knew then what I know now"!

    You have a beautiful family, Mona. I'm so sorry about your daughter and I can't imagine the pain of her loss. My 2 children are my life, too.


  14. Your children are all so beautiful and how blessed you are to have had 7! I wish I could make it all better, but do know I keep you in my prayers and hope you can find some peace and happiness during these sad months. In Jan. my sister's son will have been gone 10yrs. He was 18 when he died. She grieves everyday still, but goes on and is a very brave person. Just like you.

  15. Our kids are a blessing to us. I love the sweet photo and I'm sorry you are suffering and missing your sweet Sandy. It sure is hard my friend. Sending you lots of hugs and keeping you in my prayers. Your buddy, Diane

  16. What a beautiful family, Mona... Sandy will ALWAYS live in your heart and yes, you will always have seven children. Try your best to enjoy the Holidays this year. The first year with a family member missing is always the hardest. :(

  17. You know as I have told you - I lost my brother. I love to talk about him - so please know I love you to talk about Sandy. It is good to remember our loved ones. And what a wonderful story - and I love seeing your family - picture Sandy as an angel there. sandie


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