I am used to being open and up front with my friends. We usually chat on with no worry about offending. What happens when old friends, those known to us for years and years, those you raised your children around, have been so close to and shared so much, suddenly seems almost like a stranger.
It seems that we have to be so careful, not only with what we blog about..but how we talk and what we share with close friends.
I am going through that with a dear friend of mine..one that I have known for about 50 years.
She is going to meetings, lots of them..and during our conversation tonight..she mentioned some of what they are pushing at these meetings.
Several times during our phone conversation we found ourselves on such completely different pages that we fell silent. Not for long of course..we love one another. Were in our late teens when we met. I believe she was 18 and I was 19 and just beginning our little families.
I guess the reason I am writing this is because it's troublesome.
Another case some months back, is one where I made a connection on Classmates.com. A lovely woman..who was a beautiful child when we were in high school. We wrote to one another...so glad to find someone who remembered all the people we remembered. Then it happened.
A "hate mail" appeared in my email ..and as I read it..I could feel the shock..and then a sort of cold disbelieving fear sweep over me as I read. The letter was so full of hatred, name calling of our elected officials, etc...that I just sat stunned. I got on the computer and wrote to my "classmate," told her I had received and read her letter...and to please, please, never contact me again for any reason..signed my name and that was that. I said this nicely. Very nicely.
My hands were shaking.
Yes..I know this goes on..and that I am not the only one but to me..it's very disturbing.
I do not easily just brush off that sort of thing. She accused people of horrific things. Thankfully this is not a common occurrance ..at least I hope not. Maybe it is more common than I know.
Everyone has a right to their opinions...everyone! And I also have a right to turn away for the hatred.
I have to wonder what causes this.
I wonder at our growing more and more alienated from one another in our country.and even within our families.
We can stay away from certain subjects with our "friends" but when this has never been the case because of how close your friendship is, it's hard.
It's very difficult for me.
Another post with no pictures ...
I've had the beam put up in the family room...did I tell you? :) I have to show you...and If I've already told you..then I won't tell you again about my beautiful beam! :)