Friday, May 1, 2009


Or..thou mayest. You have a choice. To be happy or not to be happy. So today, the first day of May, I choose to be happy. Such a beautiful time of year!

Today I am going to see all that I have, not all that I have lost! I have made a choice, a conscious effort to move ahead. To learn new things, meet new people, see the beauty in life. I will plant my flowers, plant my trees and watch them grow and I will look at people and see the good in them if I possibly can. If I think positive I will attract the positive to me. beginnings! It's your choice. You can choose. Isn't it wonderful?

I decided to add to this post because I am off to the Home Show with one of my best friends tomorrow and won't be posting again until next week.
I just wanted to share this with you. I decided long ago that I wanted a rose in my last home..the one I left after Frank's death. Frank put up the arbor for me....he showed me how to plant roses. He showed me how to garden.

I had found the perfect rose that I wanted to grow over it and couldn't wait to get them started. The name of the rose was AMERICA. I loved the name and I loved the rose. It took a bit of patience but I kept persisting and tying and finally..I realized that I had done it. I had created my rose arbor. Every morning I could look out my kitchen window and see my rose arbor. I had lovely cut roses in my home...and I loved every minute of it! A dream come true, really. People would stop their cars and get out to walk up the little hill and look at it. I was so proud of it..I went on and planted many more roses..made a garden, planted redwoods..
I just wanted to share it with you..because...

even though I lost my other life my roses are gone, my arbor is gone..and am having to start again...

I still had Mele and she had to start again too..we had both lost something wonderful. She had come to this home a tiny new puppy.

I laid every single brick, and planted every single flower...there were none when I came.

The important part is that I still have those memories. I loved every minute of it. It was a wonderful time. The second chapter of my life had ended and I had to go on.

And we did it! Mele and I went on and we have a new home and a wonderful new person in our lives to love and who loves us. We were open to it and it happened. This is the third and final chapter of my life. T and I will be married one year this June 23rd. Between us..we would have had over 100 years of marriage. Doesn't that make you smile? It makes us smile! I want to fill it with wonderful people and wonderful things.
Sooo...that's what I'm doing!
I wish you joy!


  1. Great choices You´ve made!
    Enjoy the first of May now, I will!

  2. Definitely great choices and you'll be better for them. Enjoy all of May and June and July...!

  3. Absolutely! We have to choose and seek happiness. I do believe that.

    Your new blog design is gaw-geous.

  4. Your blog design is beautiful. Happy May Day!

  5. I agree....I believe that we create ourselves by the choices we make.....and for me at least, I get better at this as I get older. Thanks goodness.

  6. Joy coming to you from Illinois! We've been waiting for this beautiful month...let's enjoy.

  7. What a wonderful sentiment!!! I find seeking joy is always the best path!!! Much better than waiting for it to find you!!! Thanks for reminding me!!!

    Have a wonderful day!!!

  8. Great choices for any month - but its nice to be gently reminded. :-)

    I love your bloggy dress. Its simply lovely!!!

    Hugs, Barb

  9. HEY!! What happened to your rooster header? It was colorful and you love roosters. Where did he go? If I find him I'll catch him and bring him back to you... silly rooster.

    The Blue Ridge Gal
    Happy May Day!!

  10. What a lovely reminder for us to choose the best everyday, not just today. Happy May. Hugs, Marty

  11. GM My friend...first let me tell you I ♥ your new SPRINGY Blog dress SPRINGY a bet your new dress it is..I choose to Be "Happy To Be" Its in the heart my friend...Love ya sis, Gl♥ria

  12. Absolutely great attitude for life in general. That is the way I chose to live my life one day at a time. Thanks for the reminder and how lovely is your blog looking!

  13. Oh Mona, what a beautiful post this is. While reading it I couldn't imagine how you could leave your beautiful arbor and roses. After finishing the post I now know that you have an incredible outlook on life and have to be a very strong lady too. I admire you for that and am so glad that you have found happiness once again.

  14. oh, Mona...I can't tell you how proud I was to hear that "you had a wonderful new person in your life and he loved you and you loved him"...I had been worried that you were thinking you might have made a mistake, marrying so soon. It makes my heart sing to know that you are happy with this season of your life.
    Enjoy it all !

  15. <3 you Mona! Enjoy your trip with your friend. I have always wanted an arbor too. Your pictures are beautiful! Little Mele is precious! You are so sweet :) I wish you all the best!!!


  16. Oh, sweet Mona, you've touched my heart today! You have made the right choices and you're who you are because of them. I love ya! That was a gorgeous garden and rose arbor, but I have faith in you, you'll do it again. Now little Mele is just a heart throb. She's so precious!
    Take care and have fun at the home show!
    Shelia ;)

  17. Mona,
    Have a fun trip and enjoy yourself! Happy May Day.

  18. Wow girl , you have a green thumb that won't quit ! Beautiful roses !

  19. Absolutely beautiful post Mona :)
    Happy May Day!


  20. Wow! Beautiful garden. Behind the roses .... I think I see snapdragons?

    Hopefully.... you have some new garden pics to post this spring. I understand it takes a while to get the garden going... maybe a pretty container this spring?

  21. As always, I find beauty everywhere here. Hugs to you. Bloom where you're planted.

  22. Wonderful story, and I'm so glad you and T found each other. I know you miss your other home, but I'm glad you have the pictures to keep the memories fresh.

  23. I just love coming by your blog, Mona. All the photos are so cottage beautiful ~ it makes me miss my lil bungalow in Ohio sometimes. I had a lovely cottage garden in the front yard that I enjoyed working in so much!

    The pics of Mele are so cute... I love lil dogs like her. Congrats on your upcoming year together -- these days our years seem to fly by, don't they?

    And I love your blog design, it's gorgeous!

  24. I love your blog design so much...thanks for the sweet a new blogger.
    I enjoyed reading your blog today.
    Everyone has a story and so many of them are so touching....
    Hope you will stop by for another visit soon.
    The May give-away has started and this month there will be 10 winners. I will be blogging from Disney World soon

  25. What a wonderful post. We do have to choose happiness. Have a great weekend!

  26. Mona, I SO AGREE - happiness is a choice. I choose to land on the good and focus on the blessings. That does not mean, I am not aware of the negatives, I acknowledge them. However, the blessing overcome the woes.
    I had to laugh at you married comment. When people ask how long I have been married, I ask "married all together or this time?"
    Once again, thanks for the award and instructions. I (with your help) finally got it posted.

  27. Like they say (who are they anyways?)
    You are as happy as you choose to be.Your pictures are so beautiful. A garden always gives hope for another season.

  28. Beautiful post, Mona..

    Oh My, looks like ur a master gardener.. So very lovely.

    Hugs to you and Mele..

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